By Ayo Eshi
I finally watched the much talked about movie, ‘Anikulapo’…Arolake — Bimbo Ademoye’s role might be a movie role, but it is something anyone who has genuinely loved and got betrayed can relate to.
The betrayal Saro served Arolake is the kind most women experience from men that birthed the ‘menascum’ phrase. Tell me, will you want to associate yourself with any man again after such betrayal? You go call dem sc√m joor. Even if you do, the damage you’d carry around will make you treat the next man with so much resentment.
Believe me, betrayal hurts. A lot of people who may have never experienced betrayal can never relate to the pain, hurt, and damage that comes with betrayal. However, “no smoke without fire”. isn’t it? Here’s how Bimbo (Arolake) influenced her misfortune.👇
Discontentment!
As the youngest wife of the king, Arolake had the love of the king. She was the king’s favorite, but she wasn’t contented. She wanted to be loved by “the husband of her youth”, hehe, precisely a handsome young man, not an old king.
Her problem wasn’t just that she was married to an older King, his other wives made life unbearable for her and that alone made being with Saro a great fantasy for her. At least she would be free from her bullying co-wives. She would eventually escape the torments and anguish they caused her.
Aside from the hátred from the co-wives, Arolake nearly had it all. She had the love of a man. Childbirth and the love of a man are said to be the two things that make a happy woman…
Arolake didn’t have the two but at least, she had one. She didn’t have a child but she was loved by her husband the king… Yet she wasn’t contented with the love of an old man, so she ran out with Saro, the young fine man.
In the end, the difficulties, troubles, and pains Arolake ran from came back haunting her, and this time, worse than she ever experienced. Yes, with the king, she had love, it was just the cowives she had to battle, but in the hands of Saro her ‘glittering fantasy’, SHE LOST LOVE, She lost faith, she lost the good things she had, and the torments she thought she had escaped multiplied and even became worse.
The majority of us are like Arolake. We run away from the dark sides of life, our relationships, jobs, and businesses. We don’t like stress. We expect everything to work exactly the way we want. Smooth and Easy. But life is not like that man! No one has it all!!!
We are so dissatisfied that the grass always looks greener on the other side.
Until we let go of the ones we own and realize that there are thorns everywhere. We often don’t realize how much damage discontentment can cause us until we are in the mess.
You see that relationship you are planning to leave because there is a fine young man who seems far better and kinder than your current man at the door, hmmm, Sis, are you sure he will accept your weakness and vulnerability as much as the man who’s already seen it all and still chooses you?
That girl may look kinder and better than your present girlfriend until you let go of your woman and realize that they can’t even accept you as much as your woman did.
Learn contentment. No one has it all. Learn to be satisfied and happy with what you have.
If the conflicts in your relationship aren’t a threat to your life and peace of mind, iron them out and remind yourself that it “rains everywhere.” There’s no guarantee that the next person will be better. But I’m not advising anyone to stay in a toxic relationship oh. There is a big difference between tolerating and accepting your partner’s weaknesses from tolerating toxicity. Weaknesses are what make people imperfect. Toxic traits will endanger the two of you.
In the attached image, this scene says a lot. “Hell has no fury like a woman scorned”
Shebi na the same power wey woman give you, you wan use shame her? A woman scorned can get to any length to pull a man down unless you meet the born-again woman who leaves all battles for the Lord. Be careful how you treat a woman, especially a woman who has sacrificed a lot to be with you. If she means you, even the most powerful Babalawo is not fit to help you.
I don’t like how the movie ended though, shebi there will be a continuation?
