By Gift Habib
Now, let’s be realistic!!! Dating a stingy man can be frustrating or maybe even depressing especially when he’s obviously rich and you know it.
Research indicates that women have a greater tendency than men for empathy and care; hence, compared to men, women give more and are less likely to be stingy.
If you’re willing to look past the stinginess and you want to be in a relationship with this person, follow these tips:
Sit Him Down and Express Your Frustration
Please don’t go fighting or yelling at him. Rather, sit down with your partner and have a heart-to-heart conversation about what’s bothering you.
For many people, stinginess is a habit and they might not even see it as a problem.
But, just like the famous adage says: “The first step to solving the problem is admitting you have one.” Through conversation with your partner, get them to acknowledge this as it is really a personality trait of theirs.
Don’t Try to Change Him Against His Will
You can’t change a person who doesn’t want to change, however hard you may try.
If your boyfriend doesn’t seem to care that you’re frustrated about his stinginess, that’s something that says a lot about some other problems that you may have in your relationship.
Learn to Accept It
As the adage goes, ‘carry your cross’. Once you’ve accepted that you have a stingy boyfriend, that you’ll never be lavished with gifts or surprise trips, it’s time to adjust to the new reality. If this is something you cannot imagine, maybe it’s time to start thinking about the long-term perspective of the relationship.
However, always remember that no one is perfect and that your boyfriend is allowed to have flaws just like any other human. Focus on other things in which he makes you happy and loved, instead of magnifying his flaws.
Don’t Criticize or Talk About Him Behind His Back
Criticizing your boyfriend’s personality is never, ever productive. It’s especially harmful if you complain about his stinginess to your friends. So, if you want to point out that something about his behavior is bothering you, never do it in a criticizing or judging manner. Always be kind and gentle and try to see the situation from their point of view as well.